"Deeply feeling kid"?

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Hey there!

Tomorrow my baby turns 1!

I’m not sure what I’ll write about next week, but we can consider this my early tribute to Mother’s Day since motherhood is where my thoughts and feelings are this week.

I recently saw a video from a parenting expert who talked about “deeply feeling kids” and how when they feel vulnerable (such as when they make a mistake, fail at something, or experience embarrassment), they might yell and shut out their parents even when the parent is offering loving support.

They do this, she says, because the feelings are too intense for them to process. The offering of compassion highlights their vulnerabilities and they end up criss-crossing feelings. They feel shame rather than acceptance and it causes them to shut out the love that’s being offered.

I’m curious about this both because I think I might have a “deeply feeling kid” and because I am pretty sure I’m a “deeply feeling kid” myself.

This has come to my mind every time I think about this one year milestone.